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Compliments have been studied by psychologists for years.  The positive energy which comes from a compliment is astounding and can actually be measured with medical equipment.   How can this powerful technique be implemented into your business and personal relationships?

People are really very simple.  They need to feel self worth to survive.  If this feeling is not invoked within, then depression is most likely to occur.  The positive force a compliment can create may be the difference between an affirmative or mediocre relationship.  Whether it’s for business or personal reasons, compliments should be handed out multiple times a day by you.  Doing this one simple task everyday, will not only enrich others but also your life as well.

Complimenting some one should be for a specific issue and not to general.  For example, a good compliment would be “Sandy, your hair is very stylish and looks super on you.” Not “Sandy you are looking good today.”  Being much more detailed with the compliment makes the person feel like you have really taken notice.  Complimenting a person is one of the most rewarding gifts you can give so why not do it often? 

Are you having trouble with the kids doing chores?  Try praising them on a regular basis and see how far they will go to please you.  The praise causes a feeling of acceptance and self worth which every child needs to feel happy and secure.

Giving compliments are important, but in return you must know how to receive one.  When you receive praise, graciously smile and say “thank you”.  Do not try to destroy the positive reinforcement of the person delivering the compliment.  For example, if Sally said to you “Sandy, your hair is very stylish and looks super on you.” Do not say “I guess, but I can really see the gray in my hair.” Making a statement such as that really demolishes the person’s positive atmosphere they were hoping to generate.

 If you are uncomfortable with giving or receiving compliments, start practicing every morning until it comes automatic.  Flattery will greatly enhance someone’s life if it is genuine.  A person has an innate perception of false compliments.  If you try to give forged praise you will just make that person even feel more insecure about themselves.

 Try giving a compliment to someone who you really do not like much.  Make it a point to find something good about that person no matte how insignificant you think it is.  Compliment him a few times and watch how your feelings toward him change.  You are now looking for the good in someone instead of the bad and what you see might surprise you.

What if everyone started practicing this technique everyday?  If everyone only searched for the positive qualities which people possess?  Our society today is very self serving and conceited, only expecting the worse in people.  Would we see a decrease in crime? An avalanche with volunteers helping one another? A happier, more secure future for our children?  The full possibilities in which positive energy could create can not yet be studied.  Why? Because there are not enough compliments spreading throughout our society.  Maybe the change can begin with you and set in motion a new beginning. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain implementing this important requirement every human being thrives upon.

Success in MLM is only achieved with helping others.

Fear is a feeling which most of us has experienced at one time or another in our lives. Whether it stems from reality such as a burning building or from a self imposed apprehension like public speaking, but both kinds are perceived as real. Obviously, a burning building would invoke panic in almost all us, but public speaking would only elicit terror in a small percentage of the population. Self imposed fear limits our ability to full fill our dreams and desires and has no place in our existence or our network marketing business.

For example, when calling a potential prospect, how many times have you looked for something else to do? Anything from sharpening pencils to reading a self help book will keep you off the phone and away from the fear of rejection. Successful entrepreneurs realize their trepidations early on and find a means to overcome them. But for the majority of the population, apprehension will control their lives.

I have met many intelligent business minded professionals in my office. I have often asked them why they did not start a business instead of working for someone else. I could read the unhappiness in their demeanor but fear kept them from being successful and prosperous. All of them had several excuses about why they could not establish their own business or company. Again, the fear factor comes in to play in the form of failure.

Why are so many people afraid of failure? Does it stem back to childhood because of the possibility of disappointing our parents? I do believe fear is cultivated at a very early age because of what I have observed in my office alone. I have seen many overprotective parents when it comes to their “little Johnny”. The parents themselves have conditioned the children to be afraid of water, dogs, climbing, etc. because of the risk of becoming injured. I admit that I have raised my children without the concept of fear. Sure they realize there are dangers to stray dogs, swimming alone and so on, but it does not stop them from any feat they choose to achieve. My children know there are rules which must be followed to ensure their safety. My kids have done more than most adults would ever consider, but I can be assured they will not let anything stand in their way when it comes to their success or desires.

Network marketing is a wonderful opportunity for anyone to attain satisfaction in self worth and accomplishment. Nevertheless, it is not a good career choice for one who can not conquer fear.

Can mlm success really be attributed to something as simple as a smile?  Yes! Numerous studies done by Yale, Harvard and top psychologists around the world have proven the people who smile do attract others.  Ask some of the most famous successful people in the world and I bet they all have one thing in common which aided in their accomplishments.  They practiced their smile until it was perfected and came naturally in their every day routine.

 This takes me back to my undergrad days when I was a waitress at a small truck stop in a town of nineteen hundred people. After the first week, talking to the other waitresses, I learned I was making double the tips they were.  At first I credited the difference in tips to the fact I was new and the customers were trying to make a good impression.  But as time went on, I always made double the money the other girls did.  I started wondering myself and began watching the other girls. 

 First of all, none of the other waitresses smiled.  When they started their shift, they made sure the customers knew they were not happy at their job.  The complaining was endless and they never took the time to make sure each customer felt important.  I would always hear gossip in the town how “the regulars” would drive by first to see what waitress was working before they stopped.  I am not mentioning this story to brag.  I was a good waitress, but the deciding factor was my enthusiasm for people in general.  It did not have to be forced.  I always smiled and took the extra few minutes to treat my customers as if they were the only ones in the restaurant.  It came down to the fact, that I could make customers feel good! 

 My next goal was starting my chiropractic practice from scratch in a town of fifteen hundred from which I was not born.  My friends went to practice in enormous cities, but I chose the small town atmosphere because I knew it was right for me.  For me, small town living means many personal relationships. In a short time, I did not even have to run an ad in the newspapers and I haven’t in years.  I do not even have a yellow page ad.  When my patients come in to my office, they are made to feel as if they are part of my family.  After just the first week of practice, I had patients asking permission to call me by my first name instead of Dr. Groezinger (which is a mouthful).  Their reasoning was because they felt so comfortable.  Everyone calls me by my first name without feeling uncomfortable.  My patients know they are my equal, not beneath me because of my degree.  Do I love what I do? You bet and it shows everyday.  In fact, today, I had a young lady leave my office and on the way out, she stopped and said “I like you because you always make me feel good.” This was because I talked her through some rough spots in life today.  Did I have to take the time? Is it really in my job description as a chiropractor? No, I did it because I care about her and I wanted too and she felt accepted for who she was.  I was not there to judge or condemn her.

 Now my endeavor has moved on to mlm because I love the personal relationships.  Granted, nowadays with the internet, most customers can not see you smile, but they can tell by the reflection in your voice.  I do even smile when I am on the phone.  I love helping people and his is portrayed even over the phone or emails.  People know if your caring attitude is genuine or phony.

Let’s ponder my life experiences.  Do you think my above successes could of happen without smiling everyday?  What if I made my customers feel like it was a burden to adjust them and make them feel better?  What if I carried a conceited holier than thou attitude?  Do you think they would walk through my door again? Would a prospect every pick up the phone when I called?  Of course not.  If you only can find time to learn one thing in life, it should be your smile and not a false pasted one. People are not idiots and

will know if you are patronizing them. Can a smile really be the difference between success and failure?  You be the judge.